- Have you ever seen the joy and delight at being alive in a baby’s eyes and wondered how you lost that spark?
- When you see someone who seems very self-confident, do you wonder what that person has that you don’t have?
- Have you ever put off doing something you really want to do – writing a book or asking an appealing person out – until you feel better about yourself?
- Are you successful in some ways but underneath still feel that you could be stronger and feel more confident?
Is there something in your life that you would like to do right now?
Are you afraid that you’ll procrastinate, or get sidetracked, or that you won’t finish it?
Has this happened in the past? This is the point where you stopped trusting yourself, and stopped pushing past the obstacles and the fear.
You’ve probably heard about Thomas Edison’s thousand failed attempts to invent the light bulb and how he said, “That wasn’t failure since he had learned one thousand ways not to invent the light bulb.” That’s exactly the attitude that separates winners from quitters. All of the winners – those who eventually succeed – trust themselves to keep on going in spite of challenges and mistakes.
One of the secrets these winners share is that there are many failures on the road to success. We look at them after they’ve succeeded, and all we see is the final result, the success. We assume they have always been successful and even that there’s something special or miraculous about them that we don’t have. We’re waiting until we feel as confident as they seem before we begin. If there’s one formula for failure, that is it.
How are you limiting your dreams?
Are you avoiding people or situations that challenge you?
Do you honestly assess your own true needs?
Do you choose to do only things that don’t challenge you?
Do you tell yourself, “I don’t care” when you really do?
Do you say “yes” to everything that everyone asks of you?
Do you every renegotiate your agreements with others?
Are you always choosing smaller, safer dreams and actions because they are safer? When we achieve our smaller dreams at the expense of the larger ones and tell ourselves that we’re successful, we’re lying to ourselves and cheating ourselves out of the life we could have.
Remember, all of your agreements are with yourself. Take them seriously. Only make agreements you plan to keep. Write them down and renegotiate them when necessary even if you’re afraid that some others might not like it.
The great payoff in this is that you will begin to trust your own intuition, heart, and mind. This is the beginning of owning your own life and true self-confidence.
Don’t Lose Your Dreams